Valentine’s Day Blog Hop: People Who Need People

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Valentine’s Day Blog Hop: People Who Need People

Thank you so much to everyone joining me today for the Valentine’s Day Hop! I hope you’ll be able to return again over the next few days for the For the Love of Love event, where authors will be sharing their thoughts and work!

For the Love of Love: People Who Need People

This Valentine’s Day week the trial begins for a Massachusetts boy, now 20 years-old (then 18), indicted for murdering his 18-year-old girlfriend and dumping her body in a marsh. The teens, both apparently from good families, had met and begun dating their freshman year in high school. The defense is said to be preparing an insanity plea. A breakup caused the boy’s insanity? How can love turn so horribly wrong? I sense in cases like this profound loneliness, disconnection from humanity.

Busy crowdIn our busy, technologically connected world constant movement is the norm. We’re always running, striving, working, separated by circumstance, or sometimes choice, from the close-knit family, neighborhood, and religious communities that once gave us purpose, held us together. Today, our relationships are largely transient, based on utility or pleasure-lower-level relationships, Aristotle tells us-easily fractured.

In the wonderful 60s film Funny Girl, Fanny sings a poignant song called ‘People Who Need People.’

2016-12-28T17:09:33+00:00February 14th, 2013|Categories: For the Love of Love, Special days|Tags: , |

About the Author:

Terri Giuliano Long, a frequent guest blogger, with appearances on hundreds of blogs, is a contributing writer for IndieReader and also wrote for Her Circle eZine. She lives with her family on the East Coast. Her debut novel, In Leah’s Wake, winner of the Global eBook Award, Popular Fiction, and Indie Discovery Award, Literary Fiction, has sold over 130,000 copies worldwide.

9 Comments

  1. Tin February 13, 2013 at 10:29 pm - Reply

    Hi, Terri!

    Many thanks for hosting this hop and for the very generous giveaway!

    And thank you for sharing the story of that boy — it drives home the importance of having a supportive community around you. It's interesting that, with technology, we can connect more quickly to people — but, it is in this day and age that people also feel more alone, more isolated.

    • tglong February 15, 2013 at 2:01 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much, Tin. That's a great point. I read an article recently about email being a huge cause of stress. The ease of communication seems to be diminishing its effectiveness and meaning. Sometimes less is more!

  2. Susan Salluce February 14, 2013 at 3:02 am - Reply

    Oh, Terri, so well said. In counseling we talked about the primary bond being the most pivotal. It could be the mother, father, grandparent…as long as there is one person a child is bonded to. Then, later, we extend that bond to peers, teachers. About ten years into my practice, I was a therapist at two local high schools. I saw wounded kids…kids who were friendless, abused, whose primary bond relationships were deeply disturbed. They were the ones who concerned me: would they be the next to harm another, themselves, do a massive school incident? This isolation stems from this long-ago disrupted attachment. I feel that our culture needs intervention at the primal level…when the baby is babbling and we babble back. When she's crying from her crib, and we pick her up and say, "I am here, sweet one." When he gazes into our eyes, and we gaze back with delight. All of this provides this message of: You are loved. You are important. You are amazing. You will do great things. Infant mental health is a powerful preventative medicine, and I, too, have great compassion for those older souls who are hungry to be held like a baby and told, "You, my dear, are wonderful."

    • tglong February 15, 2013 at 2:00 pm - Reply

      I completely agree, Susan, and you put it so beautifully. We all need a connection and someone to tell us we are loved or that everything is going to be all right. It's so easy to lose track of that. Instead, it needs to be always at the forefront of our thoughts: to support, to love, to encourage.

  3. epbrink February 14, 2013 at 8:35 am - Reply

    Terri,  Thanks so much for posting this wonderful blog.  It makes me realize how lucky i am to have wonderful friends and family.  Being "busy" and needing to be "free" are just ways we keep ourselves from experiencing life's real riches.  Thanks for reminding me!  Elisabeth

    • tglong February 15, 2013 at 1:57 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much for stopping by, Elisabeth! It is so difficult to disconnect but the benefits are huge. I 'switched off' for several days around Labor Day and felt so much more productive after that uninterrupted time with family.

  4. Valentine’s Day Blog Hop February 14, 2013 at 10:55 am - Reply

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  5. SusanneBellamy February 14, 2013 at 12:54 pm - Reply

    Thoughtful post; you have discussed a major social issue in your post and I love your references to Funny Girl. I wonder if this phenomenon of loss of true connectedness will affect romance stories? Much to think about. Cheers

    • tglong February 15, 2013 at 1:55 pm - Reply

      @SusanneBellamy Thank you so much, Susanne! I enjoyed your post too. That's a great point about how it will affect romance. I hope not!

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