How Motherhood Shaped Me As A Writer

  • In Leah's Wake - Terri Giuliano Long

How Motherhood Shaped Me As A Writer

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I grew up in a big traditional Italian family. Being a mom has always been part of my story, an expectation as well as a dream, an essential part of who I am. It’s only natural that motherhood would shape my life as a writer and it has-both practically and philosophically.

The Thorn Birds - Colleen McCulloughMy husband and I have four daughters. We were very young when our eldest was born; in that sense, I’ve lived my life backward. We had children, and then I attended college and graduate school. While our children were growing up, I worked part-time. Although all my jobs involved writing, I didn’t have the luxury then of an apprenticeship in creative writing. Please don’t get me wrong: I’m not complaining. I loved my life – and my jobs. I wrote news and feature articles for the town paper, a column for a regional paper. I edited a newsletter, and wrote copy for marketing, advertising and public relations. This was all great practice.

I attended my first creative writing class in my mid-thirties. Once I did, I was hooked. As a young woman, I’d read mostly spy novels and sweeping sagas like The Thorn Birds. In my thirties, I favored literary fiction, stories about people and families that felt real and pertinent to my own life. Like most authors, I wrote stories similar to the stories I read.

Given the timing, the fact that my life revolved around my family, it’s not surprising that family plays a central role in my body of work. When I wrote In Leah’s Wake our daughters were teenagers. At the time, immersed in their world, I was acutely aware of teen issues and problems. In Leah’s Wake is not our family’s story-not a single event portrayed in the novel happened to us-and I’m not, or at least I hope I’m not, anything like Zoe. But the thoughts and feelings I describe absolutely belong to me and spring from my being a mom.

Like Zoe, I worried constantly. I used to think, if only I knew everything would turn out well; I wouldn’t worry so much. Of course we can’t see into the future, and fear of the unknown kept me on edge.

Addressing Issues Related to Parenting & Parenting Philosophies

The ways in which my philosophy and parenting style were accepted or challenged by others, my fears, my anxieties, the pressure I felt to raise perfect children, inspired and drove In Leah’s Wake. My novel-in-progress, Nowhere to Run, is a psychological thriller, a very different story from In Leah’s Wake, and yet many of these issues and themes repeat.

In Leah's Wake - Terri Giuliano LongParenting is the toughest job in the world, bar none. Unfortunately, children don’t come with instructions. We do the best we can. Really, that’s all we can do. The Tyler family is far from perfect, yet they love one another. Had the community rallied and supported them, Leah might have not have gone down such a terrible path. At heart most teens just want to feel accepted and loved – not for what they accomplish or contribute, but for who they are. When problems arise or when teens go astray, the fallout affects the entire community.

These themes of community and communal responsibility run through both novels. This repetition of themes is, of course, common with novelists. Like anyone else, authors are driven by our internal beliefs, philosophies and assumptions. We all have what my college philosophy professor called ‘mobiles,’ or internal motivators that we may or may not be conscious of. For better or worse, novelists tend to be more introspective than the general populace; we’re always thinking and digging, trying to scratch the itches that most normal people let go. Those itches become storylines or themes in our work. This is certainly true for me – it’s one of the myriad ways that being a mother has influenced me as a writer.

I feel tremendously blessed to be a mother and doubly blessed to be a mother of daughters. My family means everything to me and they come first, before anything or anyone else. If my children need me, I attend to their needs. As with many moms I know, this affects my productivity. I admire writers who can pump out a book every year. I doubt that I’ll ever achieve that goal. This makes me neither a martyr nor a hero. It simply makes me a mom!


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About the Author:

Terri Giuliano Long, a frequent guest blogger, with appearances on hundreds of blogs, is a contributing writer for IndieReader and also wrote for Her Circle eZine. She lives with her family on the East Coast. Her debut novel, In Leah’s Wake, winner of the Global eBook Award, Popular Fiction, and Indie Discovery Award, Literary Fiction, has sold over 130,000 copies worldwide.


  1. Adriana Ryan July 9, 2012 at 4:50 am - Reply

    What a great post! :) I loved reading about the parallels between your role as a mother and your job as a writer. I'm a mom, too, and although my children are very young right now (3 and 4), they've influenced my writing immensely. Not in the content of my books, per se, but rather in the discipline I put into my work. Patience was never my strong suit before, but I'm so much more patient these days thanks to my toddlers. :D

    • Terri Giuliano Long July 9, 2012 at 3:51 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much for your comment, Adriana. It's interesting that our children can bring us not only joy, new experiences, wonderful memories, but also new – or enhanced – character traits! Thank you so much for sharing and good luck with all your writing!

  2. Amy Turner July 10, 2012 at 1:05 am - Reply

    If "In Leah's Wake" is anything like the Thorn Birds, I would love to read your novel. The Thorn Birds is a gripping classic for me and I have read it twice. I also love scifi and adventure especially by Wilbur Smith.

    • Terri Giuliano Long July 10, 2012 at 5:06 pm - Reply

      Thank you for your lovely comment, Amy! I'm so glad you enjoyed The Thorn Birds. There are so many books that have helped shape or inspire me as a writer. I'm sure there will be many more to shape my future progress!

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